Stop your green eyes. Yes, I said it. This month, I want you to stop looking at other people’s success and achievements with jealousy and envy. I want you to stop wasting any of your personal energy, time and effort on things that really will not help you succeed in your career and leadership.
To quote Reverend James Martin, “When we compare, we are usually imagining someone else’s life falsely.” Our real life loses out. I absolutely love it. Guess what? Your grass is your grass. It gets greener depending on the time, energy and effort you spend on nurturing it versus any time looking over at your neighbor’s grass with green, jealous and comparison eyes.
Here’s what I want you to do when you are observing a colleague, friend, boss, client or someone else in your line of business. Identify what you admire in that person. What is it that the person is doing that brings up jealous emotions within you?
Is it how they communicate their ideas at a meeting? Maybe it’s how they connect with new people at networking events. Maybe it’s simply how they run their business or balance their life. Maybe it’s how they sell their services and go after new, exciting projects. Maybe it’s how they’re using social media for business and career purposes.
Whatever it is, identify the behavior and then model the behavior in a way that works best for you. Use that energy wisely. Perhaps you will resonate with what my pastor told us. He said, “Don’t hate. Congratulate. Don’t hate. Emulate.”
This month, I want you to focus on doing both of these. Watch as it helps you thrive at work and in your career.